Can You Be Fired for Dating a Co-Worker?

The fact of the matter is that most of us will spend most of our time in our adult lives, at work. So it is no surprise that that’s where we might find our significant other, or at least, people that we might be interested in dating.

But when you find someone at work to date, you might run into a problem: an office policy that forbids dating other co-workers in the office. Can they do that?

No Right to Date at Work

The answer is yes, an office or your employer can in fact prohibit dating relationships between co-workers. There is no legal right to date co-workers, and you can be fired for doing so. Firing you for dating co-workers is not considered discriminatory.

Note that there is nothing inherently illegal about in-office relationships–it’s just that employers can, if they choose, prohibit the behavior. In the absence of such a prohibition, dating coworkers at work is legal.

Companies not only can prohibit relationships; they also might prohibit casual “flings” or “hookups,” or any romantic or sexual contact between two employees.

Why Forbid Dating?

The policy behind the prohibition is actually to protect workers.

Companies often cannot keep track of which co-workers are dating whom, and when relationships end, and thus, may not be able to keep track of what kind of behavior is considered consensual and what is not. The policy is there to avoid the risk of sexual harassment at work, a good policy–unless you want to date a co-worker.

The good news is that many companies may be silent on the policy, while some will require that you actually fill out company forms, disclosing that you are in a consensual dating relationship. While this may seem odd, to fill out a form saying you are in a relationship with someone, it is better than being prohibited altogether.

Still, if your company has a policy allowing you to date if you follow their rules–like filling out a firm, or telling a human resources department–and you don’t do that, you can be fired for not following company procedures.

If two employees are in a relationship they may be able to ask the company to relocate them or reassign them–perhaps to different departments, divisions, or physical locations in the office.

What About Supervisors?

Dating a supervisor is almost never a good idea.

The risk of quid pro quo harassment or retaliatory behavior if the relationship ends, is great. And any claim of sexual harassment will be met with claims that the employee was in a consensual relationship with the employer supervisor.

Watch for Discrimination and Unequal Treatment

Like any policy, a “no dating” policy must be applied equally, to avoid discrimination; a company that, for example, allows a white employee to date a co-worker but punishes a black, or male employee, would be discriminating and harassing. Punishing the female partner in a relationship, but not the male partner, could also be illegal gender discrimination.

Questions about your rights at work? Contact the California employment law attorneys at the Costanzo Law Firm today.

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